成长是个过程，不是场比赛

在我的小学生当中，不少天资聪慧的，但也有些学习较慢的。
前者父母都寄于厚望，全力栽培；但也不是说后者父母就比较丧气，有的更加关注孩子的身心发展。
一般可看出，若孩子学习能力强，父母都会尽量让他们全面发挥，希望孩子文武双全！其实孩子越出色，他们的好胜心就越强，越爱比，渐渐就输不起。在这种竞争环境下成长，这些孩子的童年就会想一场比赛。
而较慢的，有些父母会这样说：“别人做得到的，你为什么做不到？”或“你也行的！一定行。”
行不行，当事人最清楚。
其实每个孩子都是不同个体，有不同特长，成长环境和背景都不一样，因此任何比较都是不健康的
重要的是凡是只求尽力，就算尽了力只拿60分，也算是100分了！
要记得人生本来就是一个旅程，别让人生的一开始，就变成竞技场。

Among my primary school kids, there are some whom are born clever, while there
are also some slow learners.

For those who are intelligent, their parents set high hopes on them, sparing no
efforts to nurture them. This, however, does not mean that the parents of the
less intelligent are doing lesser. Some of these parents take even more effort
in their child's emotional development.

A general observation is that if a child's ability to learn is high, the parents
will usually do their best to nurture the child, hoping that the child will
develop to his full potential. In actual fact, the better their child strive,
their desire to win is even stronger, making them comparing even more, and
unable to accept failures. The childhood of a child growing in such an
environment has become a competition.

There are some parents who might say, "What others can achieve, there is no
reason why you cannot." or "You can also achieve that. It's
definitely achievable.". Whether can or cannot, only the party involved
knows the best.

Every child is a different individual and has different capabilities. They have
different backgrounds and environment. As such, any kind of comparison among
the kids is unhealthy. The most important thing is doing one's best, whereby
achieving sixty marks could mean obtaining a full score of one hundred marks.

One must remember that life is actually a journey, and should never letting it
become a fighting zone right from the beginning.

(Translated by Sean Ng)
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